I’d always done well in life, so I kept telling myself I didn’t really have a problem. But the truth was harder to ignore. I was constantly anxious, stressed, and drinking far more than I wanted to admit. It wasn’t just affecting me — it was hurting the people I loved and the colleagues who relied on me. Deep down, I knew I wasn’t the man I wanted to be. My health was slipping, my happiness was gone, and one day I just thought, “Enough. I’m better than this.”
I tried everything. Psychologists felt too soft and surface‑level. Other programmes dragged on for weeks and left me more confused than when I started. I even spent serious money on a retreat that went nowhere. The more I searched, the more I realised how little real help exists for someone whose drinking is tied to deeper emotional patterns. My situation was complex — and most therapy simply isn’t built to unravel something like that.
Then I found Paul Heffernan.
From the first conversation, he gave me a dose of tough love wrapped in genuine compassion. He doesn’t sugar‑coat anything,and thank God for that. His approach comes from real life experience — the hard yards — and it shows. There’s a grounded humanity in the way he works that immediately made me feel safe, seen, and challenged in all the right ways.
Through the Mindshift Programme, Paul helped me uncover the emotional drivers beneath my drinking — the stress, the pressure, the unresolved stuff I’d been carrying for years. He guided me through it methodically, clearly, and with more insight than anyone I’ve ever worked with. It was intense, confronting, and absolutely life‑changing.
For the first time, I understand what’s been happening in my own head. I have tools, awareness, and a completely different way of approaching life. It’s almost hard to believe how different I feel — calmer, clearer, and finally in control.
This was the best investment I’ve ever made in myself.
— Tony